Monday night and no phone call

After meeting this guy Brian for an hour Saturday night, we spoke last night for a few minutes. He was trying to decide what to eat for dinner, but he said he'd call me back. A little while later, he did, only to ask me a question. The question was, "What do you think of my looks?"

Now, so everyone understands the importance of this question, when he and I first talked on the phone Saturday evening, before meeting, he asked me if looks are important. I told him, very honestly, that I'm more interested in personality than looks. He agreed and said he felt the same way.

So back to Sunday night's question, which threw me for a loop. Here's a guy who tells me looks aren't important to him, and knows I told him looks aren't important to me, asking me what I thought of his looks. I didn't know how to answer him. I felt like a guy being asked by his girlfriend, "Does this dress make me look fat?" There's no right answer.

I reminded Brian that looks are not most important with me, and I don't judge someone on their looks. He was persistant, he wanted to know if I thought he was good looking, average, or bad looking. I felt I needed to be honest, but was trying not to make it sound negative. I told him that he wasn't "Hollywood drop-dead gorgeous" but that he wasn't bad looking. And again, I reminded him that I'm looking at someone's personality, not judging them on their looks.

Then he asks me if there was any spark of attraction. Hello! I know sometimes it happens instantly, but we were only together for an hour. I didn't go into this expecting to meet someone and have an instant spark. Sometimes it takes a little bit for it to develop. I tried my best to tell him this, that I would want to get to know someone a little bit better than a one hour conversation before I made any decision on whether there was interest there.

I must have done a lousy job, or else he's more shallow than he let on. He said he had to go because he was outside trying to walk to his truck, and it started pouring out, but that he'd call me back. That was I think before 9pm last night. It's now about 10pm the next nite and I haven't heard back from him. And he very clearly said he'd call me back.

So my only thought here is that he didn't feel any "spark of attraction," and/or didn't find me attractive, and will probably not contact me again. I will wait until the weekend; if I don't hear from him by then, I will submit my follow-up, stating that I am available for another match, that we will not be dating.

And I still haven't heard back from the service about my first match that wouldn't even meet me. So I don't know if I will only have 4 more matches, or if they will give me credit for the first jerk who wouldn't even meet me.

On a side note, I saw the movie 16 Blocks yesterday, with Bruce Willis. I don't believe it was advertised much, I only saw one advertisement for it. It was pretty good. Not great, but not terrible either. Some parts it moved slow, but in general it was a good movie. I'd recommend it as a rental.